Relationships,
Health and Healing Articles

Have you ever noticed how much good advice we seem to have as to how to have healthy relationships? Despite this good advice, though, most of us still struggle with our relationships. How can this be? Are we missing something? Obviously we must be. But what?

I believe the real answer is to be found only through exploring blameless answers to the deeper questions about relationships, like a blameless answer to the question, what causes us to be romantically attracted in the first place?

A blaming answer? That our parents messed up. Or that our childhoods were deficient. Or that we just need to learn life lessons.

A blameless answer? That there is a natural "connection" characteristic within us. What is it? For the answer, you'll have to look inside.

How about what keeps some of us from leaving unhealthy relationships? And what makes some of us pick "the same people in different bodies," over and over? Here again, are there are blameless answers to these questions as well? Yes. But they'll make sense to you only if you understand the blameless "connection" characteristic.

How about why so many of us fight about the same things again and again, even when we know better. Is it just that we somehow get something out of this conflict as some "experts" suggest? Or is there a blameless answer to this question as well? Here, too, the answer is yes, and you'll find this answer inside as well.

And what about the questions about major relationship injuries like infidelity and serious sexual injuries? Can things like multiple infidelities and or rape and childhood abuse actually be healed enough for people to have good relationships? More important, can they be healed in a way that includes genuine forgiveness, enough so that people can have real, loving romantic relationships again?

Are there really blameless answers to these kinds of questions? Yes, there are. And this part of the emergence site blamelessly explores these and similar questions, including how relationships begin, how relationship injuries manifest, how painful symptoms like fights repeat. Most important, we also explore what we can do to begin to heal these injuries.