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I agree to consciously explore whatever BLocks my ability to love.
I agree to consciously guide any explorers whom I commit to help.
I agree to consciously practice loving restraint (damage control) whenever I am in shock.
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The Emergence Alliance

Steven Paglierani EP LCSW-R BCD CASAC

at the Center for Emergence
I specialize in psychotherapies which help people make
Life Changes, address Addictions, Marriage & Family problems, and Autism Spectrum Disorders
55 Old Nyack Tpke Ste 608
Nanuet, NY 10954
(845) 627-7404

Steven Paglierani is a licenced clinical social worker, personality theorist, and writer on human consciousness.
He is also the founder of a new school of psychotherapy called Humanistic Emergence.

How does your approach to psychotherapy stand out?

One thing which makes my therapy different is I do not believe in brokenness. Nor do I blame people. Blame only makes things worse. At the same time, I speak directly and honestly when it comes to holding people accountable. Responsibility is the fertile ground for change. The main thing that makes my work different, though, is that I focus on helping people to have epiphanies; aha's. Anything less requires large amounts of will power to keep doing. Ahas on the other hand alter people's very natures. So afterwards, it becomes normal for people to think, feel, and behave differently. Permantly.

What do you enjoy about the work you do?

I am in my office three fourteen-hours days; Mondays, Wednesdays, and Fridays. Thus I never work more than one day in a row. Mostly though, I never tire of hearing people's stories. And I find people's lives, and the way these lives intertwine with the lives of others, infinitely interesting. I also find that most people have good hearts and can aspire to greatness, given someone helps them to see past their blocks and to become their authentic selves.

What education and/or training do you have that relates to your work?

I have an LCSW (licensed clinical social worker) with an "r" credential, a BCD (Board Certified Diplomate in Social Work), and a CASAC (Credentialed Alcoholism and Substance Abouse Councilor). But like many licensed professionals, I am required to take a certain amount of professional hours of training. I also spend parts of most days immersed in everything from early Christianity and Greek language studies to particle physics and the nature of personality.

I believe that to be a good therapist, you must know something about just about everything, even if the only thing you know is how hard or complex it is to learn this thing. In this way, I seem to more resemble a six year old than a normal adult. To wit, I seem to have a bottomless curiosity to learn new things, including the things my clients teach me.

How did you decide to become a therapist?

Life changing events rarely announce themselves. The one that happened to me when I was twelve was no exception. My grandfather, who was close to ninety, had come for Sunday dinner. He had done this only twice before.

In large part, this was due to my mother's condition. She could tolerate only the most perfunctory talking and no loud noises at all. Because of this, we lived in monastic stillness rarely speaking, including at meals which were almost always eaten in silence. When dinner was over, my grandfather got up and went outside. Minutes later, my mother directed me to go sit with him.

I remember feeling nervous as I opened the door. What do you say to a man to whom you've never spoken other than to utter hello? Moreover, having been raised in near silence, I had no idea how to have a conversation.

Worse yet, there were only two chairs behind my house. This left me with one option--to sit right next to him. Nervously, I sat, and as I did he spoke my name. Even now, I can hear his gentle voice. And although I had no way to know it at the time, this conversation was about to change my life.

What happened next never fails to make me well up with tears, not so much from what he said but rather, because of how it made me feel. For the first time in my life, someone spoke to me as if what I thought mattered. As if I was not invisible. As if I existed as a person of some importance. Indeed, I have no words for what I felt other than to say I felt alive.

Can you picture me, a pathologically-shy twelve year old hanging on every word? My grandfather was eager to tell me about his life. And I was hungry to hear what he had to say. But just as I began to settle into what I felt sure was to be the most important conversation of my life, the back door slammed open and my mother shouted, "shut up, pop." At which point, we resumed our silent poses. Fade to black.

Today, I know my grandfather was a disciple of the empirical wise man. My grandfather was a storyteller. Sadly, I met no other until I entered AA more than twenty years later. I mention this as it seems to have been the event which kindled my obsession with unraveling human nature. Indeed, from that day on, my hunger for people's stories has never lessened. And along with it, my need to uncover the mysterious patterns hidden within these stories. (from Unraveling Human Nature, with permission from Emergence Alliance Publishing)

What advice would you give someone looking to hire a psychotherapst in your area of work?

Do not be too impressed with a therapist's credentials. Rather, trust your gut as to whether a therapist is right for you. When you call to make an appointment, ask if the therapist still works on him or herself. Also, ask what they have contributed to the world for free.

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I highly recommend her seminars.
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Books by Steven Paglierani

Solving the

Finding Personal Truth Book I: Solving the Mind-Body Mystery

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Hardcover ($29.95)
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Finding Personal Truth Book II: Unraveling Human Nature

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download free Book II - Unraveling Human Nature excerpt

Hardcover ($29.95)
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The Science

Finding Personal Truth Book III: The Science of Discovery: the Birth of a New Scientific Method

September 2016

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