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Finding the Beauty in Those Have Who Hurt Us

Despite all the troubles we see in our world, most people have good hearts. In fact, I believe we have all been born with a great ability to both give and receive love. So what keeps us from loving each other? And what makes us so afraid to forgive?

I think the answer to these questions lies hidden in how we define the word, "wound."

Usually, we define this word as "what makes us suffer."

How else could we define it? As anything which "blocks our ability to love."

So what exactly blocks our ability to love anyway?

The answer lies in exploring the deeper questions about love and forgiveness, such as what makes love emerge in us in the first place, and what makes us stop loving? What makes us hate some people, and what exactly is "forgiveness"?

How about the people who find the courage to change their lives. What gives them this courage? And what makes some people so spiritual?

Admittedly, finding authentic answers to questions like these is hard at best. Certainly, no one has whole answers. Even so, I feel certain that if we can explore these and similar questions, that we can at least find some new and better starting points, places from which we can learn to become more loving beings.

This, then, is what we explore in this part of the Emergence Site: "what blocks our ability to love." We also look at what makes us love in the first place, along with what makes us fall out of love, and fall into hate.

We also examine the elusive quality of "forgiveness" and what makes it so hard for us to let go.

And throughout these topics, we remain blamelessly focused on what I believe is the key to these and all similar questions; defining our "wounds" as "BLocked abilities to love."


Visual Article: How Understanding Holes Can Teach Us to Be Spiritual
The Gateway Between the Visual - Non Visual Worlds
(Understanding Holes)
Conversation: On Things That Bring Us Temporary Happiness
Is "Permanence" the True Test for Spiritual Value
(Things that Bring Temporary Happiness)
Visual Article: Can We Really Just Will Ourselves to Be Different? (what makes inspiration fade?)
Thoughts on Steven Covey, Tony Robbins, and Other Inspiring Men and Women
(What Makes Inspiration Fade?)
Visual Quik Summary: Can We Really Just Will Ourselves to Be Different? (what makes inspiration fade?)
Thoughts on Steven Covey, Tony Robbins, and Other Inspiring Men and Women
(Quik Summary - What Makes Inspiration Fade?)
Conversation: Can Anyone Really Be Innocent? Conversations with Marty
On Blame, Innocence, and the Chaotic Nature of Hurtful Acts
(Blame and Innocence)
Conversation: To Marlene: On Internalizing the Pain of Others
How Healthy Empathy Requires Mutual Connection
(Empathy, Connecting, and Emergence)
Conversation: To Kim: On Why Therapy Takes So Long
the Value of Empirically Defining Injury
(To Kim: Why Therapy Takes So Long)

blocked babies 1 & 2

BLocks and Keys

the Fractal Structure
of Our Injuries

2 girl & 1 boy

Quik Summary: the Secret Nature of Injury
the Hidden Side of Wounds: BLocks and Keys
(Secret Nature of Injury)
Conversation: Are Emergence "Keys" the Same as Psychology's "Triggers?"
Truly Treating the Whole Person: On "Holism" not "Sum-ism"
(Holism not Sum-ism)
Conversation: To Karen: Emergence "Keys" as the "Keys to Healing"
Recent Thoughts on "the Wound is What You Can Not See"
(Wounds are What You Can't See)
Visual Article: How BLocks to Love Affect Us Over Time
How Timing Affects the Scope of Our Injuries
(How Timing Affects Injury)
Visual Article: How Symptoms Repeat - the Healing Spiral
How the Healing Progress Unfolds
(The Emergence Healing Spiral)
Visual Article: How Emergence Changes BLocked Experiences
How Wound Healing Alters Consciousness
(How Healing Changes Consciousness)
Transcript: Fear of Flying - an Emergence Teacher's Story
a Young Mother Uses Social Priorities and Emergence on Herself
(Emergence and the Fear of Flying)
Story: Little Jacob's Story: Phobic at Four Months Old
The Baby Who Was Afraid of Mustaches
(Phobic at Four Months Old)
Visual Technique: The Pyramid of Experience
How Time Affects the Scope of BLocks
(Pyramid of Experience)

babies with symptoms 1,2

Finding Wounds

Using BLock Markers
to Locate and Heal Wounds

babies with symptoms 3,4

Article: Six Easy Ways to Identify Wounds
Introducing Emergence BLock Markers - a Way to Begin Healing Wounds
(Identifying Injuries: Six Ways)
Quik Summary: Six Easy Ways to Find Wounds
the Six Emergence BLock Markers
(Quik: Identifying Injuries: Six Ways)
Quik Summary: Six more Easy Ways to Find Wounds
Six More Emergence BLock Markers
(Identifying Injuries: Six More Ways)

visual maps of human consciousness: love, forgiveness & shock

Event Diagrams

Fractally Mapping
Our Life Stories

emergence maps

Life Event Diagram: Introducing Emergence Life Event Diagrams
Using Emergence Personality Theory to Chart Human Experience
(Emergence Life Event Diagrams)
Life Event Diagram: Understanding Emergence Life Event Diagrams
Emergence Personality Theory's Event Diagram Elements Explained
(Understanding Emergence Life Event Diagrams)
Life Event Diagram: the Four Primary Fractal Life Events in Human Nature
Getting Overwhelmed, Getting Wounded, Reliving a Wound, Healing
(Overwhelmed, BLocked, Keyed, Emerging)

Conversation: To Susan - A Few Personal Thoughts on Death
On Reincarnation and Soul Evolution
(sharing spiritual beliefs)
Conversation: Warriors and Healers - a Letter to a Friend
On the Importance of Knowing the Difference
(Warriors and Guides)

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December 30, 2007

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