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Emergence "Social Priority" Personality Quizzes

Personality Test Question Sets and Question Pairs


Want to know and understand yourself better? Want to understand why you and someone else struggle to connect? In this article, we pose four groups of social priority questions, two groups of questions sets (questions in fours) and two groups of questions in pairs (questions in twos). We then direct you toward some possible interpretations as well as offering some ways to gauge peoples' answers.







Social Priority Personality Quizzes


Before beginning, please note, each of the following groups of personality questions has a different stage on which the questions are valid. Thus, while taking each test, please keep this in mind, as the validity of each group of questions very much depends on your being on the correct stage while being asked the questions.

What gets a person on the correct stage?

First, picture each of the possible answers offered. The better you picture the answer, the more accurately your answers will reflect your social priorities.

Second, be honest with the "connected" and "not connected" qualities. Why? Because being disconnected totally reverses the order of one's social priorities. Thus, one's social priorities can be read entirely in reverse.

Know however that some people can better gauge their social priorities while in the disconnected state than when in the connected state. Know neither is more valid but only that each question set or pair is more valid for the states for which it is designed. Thus, there are only more valid stages for the different questions pairs and sets.

One final hint. Picturing is the most valid test of consciousness. Thus, when being asked, please do try to picture each and every possible answer.

In addition, try also to answer immediately after picturing but without thinking. Why? Thinking can and often will invalidate your answers, as logic can and often does override peoples' true personalities. Thus, do your best to try to respond as quickly as possible after picturing the question.

Group One: Social Priority Question "Pairs"Asked While the Person is Connected

Stage: Have someone sit with you and look into their eyes. Then when you feel the two of you are personally connected, focus on your body, noticing how your body feels. Now adjust your body until you are comfortable. Next, clear your mind as best you can then try to feel as much positive anticipation as you can. Aspire to the open energy of the receptive, curious alert baby. Finally, look around and know you can stop and leave whenever you want. Now ask the person for reassurance that they will support you if, during the test, you decide you want to stop.

Now ask the person to begin slowly asking you the questions. Make sure they go slow enough so that you have adequate time in which to picture each answer.

If you get lost or forget one of the answers, please, without hesitation, ask to hear the answers again, more slowly if need be.

Remember too, to answer as quickly as comfortably possible after picturing and before logically thinking. Trust yourself in this aspect. You really do know yourself best if only you meet these simple criteria.

Now take a big slow breath. Now when you are ready, ask your partner to begin.

Question 1: Which would you rather have, a free massage or a free rug shampooing?

Question 2: Which would you rather get, your birthday off from work with pay, or a free paid training in something you like?

Question 3: What interests you more, being organized or being educated?

Question 4: Which would you rather do, get up an hour later or get off work an hour earlier?

Question 5: What has more value for you, a free oil changes for a year or free checking for a year?

Question 6: What would you rather be given, a $100 gift certificate to Barnes and Noble, or a $100 Gift Certificate to a Day Spa?

Question 7: Which would you rather be, a teacher or a librarian?

Question 8: Which would you rather get, a day at a spa, or a day without rules?

Group Two: Social Priority Question "Pairs"Asked While the Person is Not Connected

Stage: Have someone sit with you and look into their eyes. Then when you feel the two of you are personally connected, focus on your body, noticing how your body feels. Now adjust your body until you are comfortable. Next, clear your mind as best you can then try to feel as much positive anticipation as you can. Aspire to the open energy of the receptive, curious alert baby. Finally, look around and know you can stop and leave whenever you want. Now ask the person for reassurance that they will support you if, during the test, you decide you want to stop.

Now picture something you hate doing or seeing. Now focus on it.

Now ask the person to slowly begin to ask you the questions.

Make sure they go quickly enough so that you have just enough time in which to briefly picture each answer and no more.

If you get lost or forget one of the answers, please, without hesitation, ask to hear the answers again, more slowly if need be. However, before being asked, go once again to picturing the thing you hate doing or feeling or seeing.

Remember too, to answer as quickly as comfortably possible after picturing and before logically thinking. Again, trust yourself in this aspect. You really do know yourself best even when you are in shock if only you meet these simple criteria.

Now take a big slow breath.

Now picture something you hate seeing or feeling or doing or saying.

Now when you are ready, ask your partner to begin.

Question 1: Which would you rather be: neat or comfortable?

Question 2: Which would you rather be: free, or smart?

Question 3: Which would you rather be: orderly, or unconventional?

Question 4: Which would you rather be: well-read, or well-cared for?

Question 5: Which would you rather do: relax in bed, or organize your kitchen drawers?

Question 6: Which would you rather do: study and learn, or have no rules?

Question 7: Which would you rather get: a great book, or a great meal?

Question 8: Which would you rather get: finish everything on your list, or tear up your list

Group Three: Social Priority Question "Sets"Asked While the Person is Connected

Stage: Have someone sit with you and look into their eyes. Then when you feel the two of you are personally connected, focus on your body, noticing how your body feels. Now adjust your body until you are comfortable. Next, clear your mind as best you can then try to feel as much positive anticipation as you can. Aspire to the open energy of the receptive, curious, alert baby. Finally, look around and know you can stop and leave whenever you want. Now ask the person for reassurance that they will support you if, during the test, you decide you want to stop.

Now ask the person to begin slowly asking you the questions. Make sure they go slow enough so that you have adequate time in which to picture each answer.

If you get lost or forget one of the answers, please, without hesitation, ask to hear the answers again, more slowly if need be.

Remember too, to answer as quickly as comfortably possible after picturing and before logically thinking. Trust yourself in this aspect. You really do know yourself best if only you meet these simple criteria.

Now take a big slow breath. Now when you are ready, ask your partner to begin.

Question 1: Which of these four things would you most like to get in a new mattress?

Answers (pick only one):
[1] the most comfortable?
[2] free delivery and set-up of your mattress?
[3] the most healthy and scientifically designed mattress?
[4] the best sale price in a long time?


Question 2: You are redoing your bedroom closets. Which would you most want to make sure you get?

Answers (pick only one):
[1] the most well lit and easily accessed (easy reach)?
[2] the most well organized (a place for everything and everything in its place)?
[3] the most innovative layout and feng shui approved?
[4] the quickest to build and most changeable afterwards?


Question 3: You are taking a class required for work. Which would you most like to get from this class?

Answers (pick only one):
[1] what you learn will make your job easier and save you effort?
[2] what you learn will help you to better prioritize your tasks and help you do get more done?
[3] what you learn will enhance your skills and inspire you to do new things?
[4] what you learn will save you time and get you out of work earlier?


Question 4: Which of the following would you most like to get?

Answers (pick only one):
[1] two free massages?
[2] five free tanks of gas?
[3] a free all-day seminar?
[4] a paid day off?

Group Four: Social Priority Question "Sets"Asked While the Person is Not Connected

Stage: As before, have someone sit with you and look into their eyes. Then, when the two of you feel personally connected, focus on your body and notice how it feels. Now adjust your body until you feel comfortable.

Next, clear your mind as best you can then try to feel as much positive anticipation as you can. Aspire to the open energy of the receptive, curious, alert baby. Finally, look around and know you can stop and leave whenever you want. Now ask the person for reassurance that they will support you if, during the test, you decide you need to stop.

Now picture something you hate doing or seeing. Now focus on it for a while.

Now ask the person to slowly begin to ask you the questions while trying to keep the hate energy alive in your mind.

Make sure they ask you the questions quickly enough that you have only enough time to briefly picture each answer and no more.

If you get lost or forget one of the answers, please, without hesitation, ask to hear the answers again, more slowly if need be. However, before being asked, go back once more to picturing the thing you hate doing or feeling or seeing.

Remember too, try to answer as quickly as comfortably possible after you picture but before your logical mind cuts in. Again, trust yourself in this aspect. You really do know yourself best even when you are in shock, especially if you meet these simple criteria.

Now take a big slow breath.

Now picture something you hate seeing or feeling or doing or saying.

Now when you are ready, ask your partner to begin.

Question 1: You are about to move into a new apartment. What would you most like to get help with?

Answers (pick only one):

[1] unpacking?
[2] setting up your bed?
[3]
[4]

Question 2: You are about to plan your next vacation. Which life circumstance would you rather be in?

Answers (pick only one):

[1] Just got another week off?
[2] Just got a performance award?
[3] Just got a bigger office?
[4] Just got a secretary?

Question 3:

Answers (pick only one):

[1]
[2]
[3]
[4]

Question 4:

Answers (pick only one):
[1]
[2]
[3]
[4]

Interpreting the Answers

Let's begin by listing the social priorities implied by each of the answers.

Social Priority Question "Pairs"Asked While the Person is Connected (Group One)


Question 1: [1] comfort or [2] neatness
Question 2: [4] freedom or [3] understanding
Question 3: [2] neatness or [3] understanding
Question 4: [1] comfort or [4] freedom
Question 5: [2] neatness or [4] freedom
Question 6: [3] understanding or [1] comfort
Question 7: [3] understanding or [2] neatness
Question 8: [4] comfort or [3] freedom

Social Priority Question "Pairs"Asked While the Person is Not Connected (Group Two)


Question 1: [2] neatness or [1] comfort
Question 2: [4] freedom or [3] understanding
Question 3: [2] neatness or [4] freedom
Question 4: [3] understanding or [1] comfort
Question 5: [1] comfort or [2] neatness
Question 6: [3] understanding or [4] freedom
Question 7: [3] understanding or [1] comfort
Question 8: [2] neatness or [4] freedom

Social Priority Question "Sets"Asked While the Person is Connected (Group Three)


Question 1: [1] comfort, [2] neatness, [3] understanding, [4] freedom
Question 2: [1] comfort, [2] neatness, [3] understanding, [4] freedom
Question 3: [1] comfort, [2] neatness, [3] understanding, [4] freedom
Question 4: [1] comfort, [2] neatness, [3] understanding, [4] freedom

Social Priority Question "Sets"Asked While the Person is Not Connected (Group Four)


Question 1:
Question 2:
Question 3:
Question 4:

What Next?

Now that you've gathered the person's answers, use the answer guide to determine the person's social priorities.

How?

Begin by listing the Group One Answers as if they are fractions, meaning the number of the chosen answer above the number of the unchosen answer. Thus, if the person's answer to question one was [1] (comfort), you would write an "C" over an "N." And if the person's answer to question two was [4] (freedom), then you'd write an "F" over a "U."

At this point, you have two fractions, C/N and F/U.

Now, continue by listing the rest of the answers in this same fraction form until you have listed all eight answers.

Now begin to sort the person's priorities. And to see what I mean by this, I've drawn one possible outcome for the process out.

Closing Thoughts: What About Making Pairs of Questions?


For those wanting a look at what's behind the Social Priority Charts themselves ...


And for those wanting to see how the Social Priorities Relate to Learning Disabilities ...



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