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How "Social Priorities" Will Affect Our Future


In this, the final article on a ten article series article on the Emergence "Social Priority Scale," we look at how understanding the human experiences of personal "neediness" and distraction could change how we experience our world at large. We also recap the concepts and posit some benefits at large.

Introduction the 4 Character Types Social Priority 1: Sensation Social Priority 2: Things Social Priority 3: Ideas
Social Priority 4: No Rules In Relationships In Classrooms In Therapy In Our Future

A Brief Recap of the Concepts

Begin by reminding yourself of what is in the left column of a Social Priority Chart; the four "character types."

What are the four character types?

Named by the year of life in which the person's character type formed, a "one," a "two," a "three" and a "four." And said in terms of whose needs feel important to the person, a "me," a "you," a "me then you," and a "you then me."

These are the four ways we feel the need to give and get, the four ways we experience our own and other peoples' needs.

Next, remind yourself of what is in the right column of a Social Priority Chart; the four "social priorities?"

What are the four social priorities?

[1] comfort / sensation, [2] neatness / things, [3] understanding / ideas, and [4] freedom / no rules.

And what do these four words represent?

First, they represent the essence of the four ways babies learn to sense their world, and from this perspective, we could say, we are seeing these four experiences as our "sensations" of human nature.

This first view is the "sensual person's priority": comfort.

Second, they represent the essence of the four things which distract babies most during each of these four times, those times wherein babies have yet to master these four experiences. Here, we are seeing these experiences as "things" about human nature.

This second view is the "organized person's priority": neatness.

Third, they represent the four concepts babies focus most on mastering during each of their four basic developmental times. From this view, we are seeing these four experiences as our "ideas" about human nature.

This third view is the "conceptual person's priority"; understanding.

Fourth, they represent the four developmental "need experiences" babies go through between birth and about age four.

This time we are seeing these experiences as the "rules" of human nature.

This fourth view is the "willful person's priority": freedom.

Finally, we can also see these four experiences as the four places babies can get stuck in learning. And when this happens to a baby to an extreme degree, then, [1] comfort / sensation, [2] neatness / things, [3] understanding / ideas, and [4] freedom / no rules become [1] Kanner's Autism, [2] OCD / OCPD, [3] Asperger's Syndrome, and [4] ADD; the four main childhood developmental-learning diseases.

How Do We Get This Information?

For a skilled emergence Practitioner, gathering this information can take all of about a half an hour or so. However, at the risk of discouraging people, please know, learning to do this can take quite a while. Why?

Mainly because you must first learn to create the questions, and second, be able to discern the person's state at the time you ask these questions.

At first then, creating Social Priority questions may seem quite obvious and direct, and sometimes it is. In fact, we plan on having some sample question sets elsewhere on the site. Even so, people often interpret words very differently. Thus, asking people if they would rather be comfortable or smart can quite effectively discern between comfort and understanding for most people. But while asking these same people whether they would rather have a new bedroom or a new library may be equally as clear to them, it may also be so vague as to simply confuse them.

A new bedroom could be interpreted as having a new, comfortable bed (comfort). It could also be seen as a new, well arranged living space (neatness). Further, someone might see the library as giving them many new chances to learn (understanding). Then too, they may interpret this library as similar to the second choice in the new bedroom question; as a new, well arranged living space (neatness).

Discerning peoples' Character Types can also take skill. First, you must be able to tell if the person is in a clear or inverted state; second, whether the question truly addresses who the person feels first urges to get from or give to.

How hard is learning to do this? It's not hard really. It just takes some time to learn to adjust the questions to the person you ask.

And my point for saying all this?

The last thing I'd want to promote in the world is another way for people to blame or discredit each other. Thus, like all things done with love, it takes being clear and conscious, and connected to the other, to really do it well.

How Can We Use This Information?

So what can we do with this information about peoples' personal likes?

In Business:

  • Career counselors can help people better match their career choices to rewarding careers. For instance, "ones" and "threes" in general find managing people easier than "twos" or "fours." "Twos" and "fours" however, find supportive and assistant roles more rewarding and personally manageable.
  • Managers themselves can get happier and better performing employees by better matching employees to their job duties. For instance, understanding-first people make excellent deployment people, especially in situations which involve new technology and changing systems. On the other hand, neatness-first people often balk at such duties, as they can experience great stress when familiar systems change.
  • Then again, neatness-first people make very good efficiency reporters, and can do well in situations which require data gathering and reports. Thus, duties such as reporting production and supporting management decisions with information suit their personalities quite well.

In Education:

  • Educators can use children's social priorities to connect children's interests and subjects studied. Here, children, when asked what they like, often do not know. They are simply too young to know. Here, knowledge of a child's social priorities can actually help the child to identify and connect to educational interests.
  • School guidance counselors can use social priorities to better match children to after graduation choices, such as to which technical school or college will best fit them, or which children will be best entering the work force directly.
  • School psychologists and counselors can better match kids with learning disabilities to the help they need, tailoring both curriculum and teachers to the child. This includes kids with ADD, ADHD, Asperger's, etc.

In Medicine:

  • Medical Doctors including Psychiatrists can use the knowledge of peoples' social priorities to better match their patients to their medicines, including to how these medicines are administered. Thus, patients who do well with schedules (neatness-first people) will in all likelihood require little intervention as to taking medicines on time. They may, however, be more fussy with physical details such as the size of a pill and how these pills get stored. In such cases, use of clever packaging or pill management systems may encourage compliance, as neatness first people love how these organizers work.
  • On the other hand, pill management systems may actually discourage compliance for freedom-first people, as they struggle with rules. Here, time release forms of medicines may better encourage compliance, especially when these medicines are presented as freeing these patients from much of the need to follow rules.
  • Comfort-first patients may also benefit from either pill management systems or time release medicines. Or not. However, they will most times require special attention with regard to the taste and textures of medicines.
  • Understanding-first people may have the easiest time, however, even here, using knowledge of their social priorities will enhance medical compliance. For instance, while freedom first people will in all likelihood not benefit from detailed explanations as to the nature of the medicines prescribed, explaining the benefits and side effects to understanding first people will definitely affect these patients' willingness to use medicines as directed.

In Therapy:

  • Therapists and spiritual counselors can use peoples' inverted priorities to help people better identify problem areas.

In Personal Life:

  • People can better identify and heal difficulties such as marital problems, parent - child problems, sibling rivalries, etc.
  • Knowing peoples' social priorities can blamelessly account for differences in peoples' neatness / organization skills.


Introduction the 4 Character Types Social Priority 1: Sensation Social Priority 2: Things Social Priority 3: Ideas
Social Priority 4: No Rules In Relationships In Classrooms In Therapy In Our Future


For those wanting to get some hints as to how to make Social Priority Charts ...
And for those interested in seeing how the Social Priorities Relate to Learning Disabilities ...



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