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Holes and Fear of the Future

the Emergence Explorer

Questions for the Week of August 14, 2006

Emergence Character Type Babies 9-AI-2

This Week's Questions

[posed by Austin S.]
  • Are the big life questions actually "holes?"
  • Are holes gateways to new worlds of possibility?
  • Is it really so frightening to accept that there are things we cannot see?

Do you know?

[Question 1] When I try to see into the future, where I will live and what kind of work I'll be doing a year from now, I feel anxious. My inability to picture the possibilities shows me how shocking these questions must be to me. Then, when I try to see past these BLocks, what I picture is me running around in a giant hamster wheel inside my head, while I try to figure out the big questions in my life. Are these kinds of big life questions actually "holes?"
[Answer] Absolutely, Austin. In fact, they are holes of the grandest variety. For us humans, anyway. For whomever created us? Well, imagine the size of a God sized hole? Questions like should babies suffer? Whoa! And we think we have difficult questions to solve.

As for the questions you are facing, such as where you will live and what kind of work you'll be doing a year from now, at the very least, you should know, these are the best kinds of "holes" to investigate and explore. After all, they involve your whole future.

What is also important to consider, though, is what your future will be like if you do not explore these pictures. The truth? You would probably miss out on a whole heck of a lot of wonderful stuff, things like making the world better for children including your own.

My advice? Keep wrestling with these blanknesses. They are the very best place to focus your energies. And remember. The wound is what you cannot see, and never what you can see. In a way then, the future itself is a wound, albeit, a wound in the Buddhist sense of our being unconscious about it. It's also a hole of the most important variety, and like Lewis Carroll's Alice, you might as well stop futzing around it and just dive in.

[Question 2] My drive to see inside these "holes" feels almost like something inside me is chasing me. To be honest, I get exhausted when I try to fill in these missing pictures, for instance, when I try to picture where I am going to live. Eventually, then, I do become able to set these quests aside. However, no sooner do I set them aside then I start asking myself yet another question I can't answer about my future.

My question is, where does this need to know the future come from? Is it related to some form of why logic?
[Answer] Actually, it is very related to why logic in that we use why logic to relieve the stress of not knowing our future. What is good to know here is what drives this desire; we are driven by the false belief that if we can predict the future, we can prevent suffering. Especially the kinds of suffering we have experienced in the past.

What makes this whole endeavor fail is the idea that life is more chaotic than linear. Thus, while those who forget the past are indeed doomed to repeat it, we can never know when this repetition will happen. Thus, wasting your efforts on what may never come dooms you to an even worse fate; missing out on the present because you are busy staring at the past.

Exploring one's consciousness in the present moment is the only way to truly improve one's chances for the future. More important, since you now know, and understand, the function of blocks and blankness, you can use this knowledge to heal whatever blanknesses may exist in you. And this will guarantee you will have the best future you can possible co-create. With your Creator, that is.

[Question 3] Do the answers to my questions about where I am going to live and what I will be doing as my day to day work exist in the non visual world, for instance, on the other side of a "hole"?
[Answer] In a way, yes, they do, although there is no real non-visual world. In reality, no one knows what is inside a hole. Why not? Because matter and time as we know it does not exist in holes. They exist only around the hole.

Now if you are still interested, what might help would be for you to picture the "hole" in your future as being similar to the astronomer's "black hole." Now try to imagine you are trying to peak into that kind of hole.

What would you find in there? Something very similar to what exists in the neck of any common hour glass; chaos. There, in the neck of an hour glass, the physical laws which normally govern our world break down. They literally scatter and fall apart.

In effect, this makes black holes and quantum particles the large and small doorways in and out of our world. And because nothing in our world can exist in a place in which our laws of physics break down, we can never go into these places and come back alive. And this is true no matter what the string theorists say.

How then does all this relate to you wanting to know your future? Essentially, like all things in our world, the physical laws which govern our world and the psycho spiritual laws which govern us mirror each other. And in case you didn't know this, there is nothing new about what I've just said. Hermetic philosophy two thousand years ago said the very same thing. Too bad most scientific types are so paranoid regarding these kinds of things that they bolt and run from them post haste. Which makes me wonder why then never try to emulate those scientists whom have not bolted and run, the ones who actually discover the most about our world. Men like Newton and Einstein.

Bottom line is, the answers to questions like yours do indeed exist in a "hole." However, like journeying into a black hole, we can not go there and still exist. Therefore, invest in what you can see. Invest in the present. And the best way to invest in the present? Explore what you can and cannot see. By doing this, the holes shrink.

[Question 4] How can I learn to let go of trying to see into these "holes"? Is it that it so frightening to accept that there are some things that I cannot see?
[Answer] To some degree, yes, it is this frightening. For all of us, in fact. You see, being afraid of what we cannot see is simply a part of human nature and the way we are designed.

Know, however, that this fear of the unknown is much more complicated than simply being that we fear not knowing the future. After all, some things in your future will inevitably be wonderful. Do you fear these events too? And some of the painful things in your past you will never see. Do you need to see all the pain in your past? To be h9onest, no you do not. You only need to see as much as helps you define the holes in your present.

The point is, while we can never actually learn to be able to see into holes, we can learn to see where they exist. How? Simply by noticing, in the present, what we can and cannot picture. What makes this true? Simply the idea that the basic material from which everything in our world is constructed is is light. Light is the basic manna of life, the most basic raw material in our lives.

Holes, then, are simply the anti-light. Not the anti-Christ, mind you. Just the anti-light. Which is just another way to say, holes are neither bad not good. They simply do not exist in our world. Therefore, they are physically off limits to us.

I guess the main question to ask with regard to holes then is, can it hurt us to not know they are there? The answer? Yes. But we do not need to drive into a pot hole to avoid it's consequences. Nor do we need to get AIDs in order to know we do not want to get it. We simply need to know these holes exist and then use this knowledge to avoid driving into these pot holes.

[Question 5] I find myself constantly trying to fill in these visual "holes" with my imagination. In truth, I feel quite uncomfortable not knowing what is in there. At the same time, I am working hard to learn how to authentically admit that "I don’t know" what is in there. My question is, what are some ways for me to develop enough faith to be able to let these holes be holes?
[Answer] Austin, you have just asked one heck of a big question. In essence, you have asked how one develops faith. The answer. There is no single path to faith. Why not? Because human being come to have faith only by visiting their faithless selves. What I'm saying is, faith for human beings never comes easily. Not even to the most spiritual of persons. Why not? True faith is the result of having embraced faithlessness, and most people are too afraid to feel this way.

Interestingly enough, there is a whole school of philosophy which embraces this idea. The school? Skepticism. No coincidence the majority of famed philosophers fall into this category, everyone from Socrates and Plato to Kant and Descartes.

Know, of course, that skeptics are not pessimists. Nor are they cynics. True skeptics allow for the possibility of beauty, especially in places wherein we humans cannot visit. At least, not while we exist in the physical world.

Here, then, is what I believe is the best route to faith; genuinely open skepticism. A conditional disbelief wherein you question even the existence of God. And of yourself. While at the same time, you allow for the possibility that beauty exists everywhere, and that you may simply be unable to see it because your eye sight has flaws.

Seeing into this hole is the stuff of which the greatest lives are made. And like light and anti-light; knowledge and not knowing are the very boundaries upon which the greatest faith is born. Be positively skeptical, Austin, and your faith will develop in the grandest of ways.

[Question 6] (asked by Austin and Danielle) Can a hole be like a blank sheet of paper? Can the paper be seen as a hole or a wound which, in reality, is a gateway to a world of new possibilities? Could this world of new possibilities be the non-visual / spiritual world, the place which we normally cannot see while we are here in the physical world? Is healing akin to the act of creating images and or words on a blank sheet of paper?
[Answer] Holes are more like what is not yet written on the paper than the paper itself. In a way, you could say it is like invisible writing which has yet to make it into our world.

Even so, it is onto this invisible paper that we write our future action and words, and with them our feelings and wishes. Here, then, is the very place in which souls get created. Invisibly written, minute by minute, here, in the warmth of the present moment. No coincidence, the finest philosophies and spiritual practices marvel at the wonder contained in the present instant.

Not sure there is any wonder to marvel at? Be skeptical as to if it will come. And at the same time, allow for the possibility. This, Austin, is the faith we need to navigate the holes in life. You have but to let this possibility emerge in you to know it for what it is; your future.

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