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Six more Easy Ways to Find Wounds:
the 2nd Six BLock Markers

A Quick Summary

emergence therapy psychological wounds

Main Points on This Quick List

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[1] Feeling Urgency During Ordinary Life Events The 7th Category of BLock Markers
[2] Feeling Abandoned During Ordinary Life Events The 8th Category of BLock Markers
[3] Feeling Trapped During Nonviolent Life Events The 9th Category of BLock Markers
[4] Repeatedly Making the Same Painful Error The 10th Category of BLock Markers
[5] Feeling Markedly Older or Younger During Ordinary Life Events The 11th Category of BLock Markers
[6] Feeling Compelled to Do Ordinary Acts The 12th Category of BLock Markers

Words and Phrases to Pay Attention To

(they've been redefined to reflect Emergence Personality Theory)
feeling urgency, feeling abandoned, feeling trapped, feeling age differences; feeling compelled to act

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Quick List With Examples

[1] Feeling Urgency During Ordinary Life Events: The 7th Category of BLock Markers

  • eating quickly when there is no need; i.e. gulping, forcing food down, cutting meals short for no reason. Almost all people have this to some degree, and it is the single most useful key in healing eating disorders. Unfortunately, most people never notice this symptom consciously and so, continue to try to change "what" they eat rather than "how."
  • rushing to get out what you have to say even when encouraged to take your time (having people tell you to slow down and still speaking quickly, speaking so quickly you run out of breath, experiencing great anxiety when having to wait your turn to speak, etc.)
  • hurrying to physically move past any person, place or thing while not in the presence of violence, especially when you know it is safe (parks, dark spaces, closets, bridges, tunnels)
  • feeling anxious when you can not avoid some person, place or thing especially when you know logically you are in no danger (avoiding bullies, bosses, former lovers or friends, etc.)
  • feeling pressured to complete any task when no actual deadline exists (having to finish homework or a project on your job when you have weeks to complete it and no one is rushing you, feeling you must please someone, sexually, by being smart, strength wise, etc.)

[2] Feeling Abandoned During Ordinary Life Events: The 8th Category of BLock Markers

  • any adult who experiences a child's neediness (panicking when someone is late to pick you up; feeling terror when you get separated from a group while on a trip or when shopping with a friend shopping, having an anxiety attack when you are home alone in a storm, etc.)
  • Any adult who feels significantly smaller than their actual physical size. This often occurs to people as they are being confronted, by a boss or by a spouse, especially when they have been caught in an act for which they feel guilt, and at times, just from hearing "can we talk."

[3] Feeling Trapped During Nonviolent Life Events: The 9th Category of BLock Markers

  • any reaction wherein an adult feels compelled to escape from an ordinary life situation. (experiencing panic during a train or bus ride, experiencing great fear while in a closed elevator or a room without windows, experiencing terror while in small spaces (closets, hallways, etc.)
  • freezing up during an ordinary life situation, such as freezing up during public speaking, being unable to sing in front of people, being unable to directly share your spiritual values, etc.
  • feeling cornered when someone stands near you, or stands in the exit doorway, or walks behind you at a distance, or stands up in front of you while you are seated, etc.
  • an inability to leave an unrewarding career or relationship; such as when a boss or spouse is cruel or unusually demanding but you can not even picture leaving despite the desire.

[4] Repeatedly Making the Same Painful Error: The 10th Category of BLock Markers

  • being repeatedly romantically attracted to or becoming involved with people who rage, drink alcoholic and or take drugs additively, gamble or spend money compulsively, work so many hours you have little or no time with them, etc.
  • Repeatedly doing a painful behavior when you have sworn to stop and know better (such as when people promise to: stop arguing or bickering; stop criticizing; stop drinking or drugging compulsively; stop gambling or spending money compulsively; stop fidgeting or doing some obnoxious nervous habit; stop avoiding some responsibility like doing homework, paying bills, fixing the house, etc.; AND repeatedly fail to keep their promises)
  • the inability to enjoy a major portion of a relationship despite the desire and efforts to do so, such as being unable to enjoy making love, or being unable to enjoy learning from a partner)

[5] Feeling Markedly Older or Younger During Ordinary Life Events: The 11th Category of BLock Markers

  • the experience of feeling and or acting like an adult while still a child (such as when people report never having felt young or never having had a childhood, i.e. "I always felt like the oldest person in my family.")
  • the experience of feeling or acting significantly younger than your age while in public places (such as when people will not go out to the mall alone, drive on the superhighway without a passenger, go out to a restaurant or a movie alone, etc. because they feel scared to go alone, hearing your voice or style of speaking suddenly become much younger when it is not just playacting)
  • the experience of feeling physically smaller, shorter, or less powerful than you really are.

[6] Feeling Compelled to Do Ordinary Acts: The 12th Category of BLock Markers

  • feeling compelled to clean (cleaning the house or car when it is already clean, feeling guilty when you momentarily leave dishes in the sink, feeling embarrassed when someone visits unexpectedly and you notice dust on a bookshelf, or have a magazine on the kitchen table, or have a few clothes on your bed, feeling urges to clean someone else's home when you visit.)
  • feeling compelled to help people in need (therapists who feel they must help their clients, people who donate money they do not have, people who are still hungry who give their food to others when these others have already eaten, people who offer rides to strangers, etc.)
  • feeling compelled to eat when you are not hungry, drink alcohol when you have no desire, exercise when you are sick or injured, spend money you do not have, have sex when you have no interest, go to church when you get nothing from it, read the newspaper because you must know what is going on in the world even when you have your own personal problems to face.
  • feeling compelled to speak (talking during movies when asked to be quiet, filling in the silences in conversations when riding in the car, interrupting the conversations of others even when asked not to, offering advice even when asked not to, etc.)
  • feeling compelled to be silent (being afraid to speak even when you need something or see someone about to be or being physically hurt, being afraid to ask for directions, etc.)
  • feeling compelled to not move (fear of being punished, or hit, or of dying, if you move.)
  • feeling compelled to move (pacing, fidgeting, attention deficits during school or work, etc.)
Want to know more? For an article length discussion of The [first] Six BLock Markers, click below.
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