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Recognizing Shock: the Experience of Aloneness

A Quick Summary

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Main Points on This Quick List

[1] Shock is an unanswered question you cannot stop asking (the general definition)
[2] Shock is any significant detachment from the current life experience (the technical def.)
[3] The Three Ways Into Shock are: major indecision, getting wounded, and getting keyed
[4] The easiest way to know you are / were in shock is when an event causes you to feel disbelief
[5] Being keyed means being hypnotically cued back into a prior painful life experience.
[6] Healing is simply the act of consciously witnessing a key or keys.
[7] The Continuum of Shock (the behavior being in shock causes) ranges from overreaction to underreaction
[8] Overreaction (the left end of the continuum) is also called "Masculine Shock"
[9] Underreaction (the right end of the continuum) is also called "Feminine Shock"

Words and Phrases to Pay Attention To

(they've been redefined to reflect Emergence Personality Theory)
shock (general definiton), shock (technical definition), the 3 ways we go into shock, how to know you are in shock,
being keyed, healing, the continuum of shock
(overreaction, underreaction)

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Quick List With Examples

[1]shock is an unanswered question you cannot stop asking (the general definition)

  • Being in shock feels like being caught in quicksand or getting lost in a heavy fog, only worse. In shock, you feel like the quicksand is inside of you. In reality, you are simply drowning in a sea of questions, each one leading you to more questions.
  • All people, no matter how intelligent or spiritual, are vulnerable to shock. Further, no amount of mental or spiritual preparation can prevent this from happening. Only healing prevents it.
  • Although the range of what shocks people is infinite, all people enter shock the same way: they get trapped in a single, primary question which they cannot stop asking.
  • Shock deepens because people in shock feel trapped in a question. They then try to escape by asking secondary questions. Each of these secondary questions then leads to more questions. Finally, as these secondary questions continue to deepen the shock, people soon find themselves lost in a labyrinth of unanswered questions, and it is being in this labyrinth of unanswered questions which causes people to suffer.
  • This labyrinth of questions is also what keeps people in shock from experiencing love. Thus, even when the love which could help them is literally right in front of them, being in shock prevents people from even knowing this love exists. This means, people in shock literally experience the lack of love at the times they need love the most.

[2] shock is any significant detachment from the current life experience (the technical def.)

  • the easiest way to sense your (level of) detachment is to try to picture your current life activity. The degree to which you cannot picture your current life activity indicates how detached you currently are. Conversely, the degree to which you can picture your current life activity is the degree to which you are conscious (not in shock).

[3] people go into shock from three things: major indecision (getting overwhelmed by a life decision), getting Blocked (getting a wound), and getting keyed (reliving a wounding event)

  • Know that going into shock is limited to these three experiences because there are only four recognizable fractals present in the changing visual intensity of what occurs on the screen of the mind, three of which define these three states of shock, and the fourth which defines healing.

[4] The easiest way to know you are in shock is when an event causes you to feel disbelief

  • Anytime you hear yourself say, "I can't believe [blank] happened," you just went into shock. Examples of this would be: "I can't believe he said that to you"; "I can't believe he hurt you like that"; "I can't believe he ran right into me"; I can't believe my father left me that way."

[5] The easiest way to learn to see shock is to learn to see blankness in the eyes others

  • All people in shock, regardless of their behavior, have a blankness in their eyes.

[6] Another way to know you were in shock is that, afterwards, you will have little to no recall

  • The number one way Emergence Personality Theory finds wounds is by looking for events wherein you have vivid recall of a painful event. At the same time, all wounding events end in shock. So where is the part which defines the shock? The part immediately following the part you can vividly recall.

[7] the Continuum of Shock (shocked behavior) ranges from overreaction to underreaction

  • The responses of people in shock can range in outward appearance from freezing up (underreaction) to violence (overreaction).
  • During intense under-reactions, people will resemble deer caught in a car's headlights.
  • During intense overreactions, people will often appear frightening to others, as intensely violating energies emanate from their eyes (this look is often mistakenly called, "evil.")
  • witnessing someone overreacting can often cause the observer to under-react. I call these responses, sympathetic blankness.
  • Just as often, witnessing someone overreacting will cause the observer to overreact, and I call these responses, sympathetic overreactions.
  • Witnessing someone under-reacting can also cause the observer to go into shock. Here, the observer's responses will vary from sympathetic blankness, which is the natural reaction here, to feeling mad at the person or afraid of them (overreaction). Please note that both sympathetic blankness and sympathetic overreactions are always the evidence that the observer shares a similar wound with the observed person.

[8] Overreaction (the left end of the continuum) is also called "Masculine Shock"

  • Masculine Shock is the experience of being suddenly thrust off balance; in effect, it is the sudden experience of suffering (note: despite the name, both genders can experience this).
  • Common overreactions include things like the impulse to kill someone, something which seriously frightened people commonly experience. For instance, people often feel such urges when they get cut off on a busy highway (road rage) or get pushed from behind suddenly.
  • More often, though, people who are overreacting are responding to something trivial, such as a grouchy spouse's words or an over-tired child's whining. (Violent responses to trivial causes always indicate a Block in the person who is reacting).
  • Were these people not in shock, they might whine right back and then laugh at the whole thing. In fact, two year olds frequently do this very thing when they are furious one moment and an instant later (when they come out of shock), run over and hug you.
  • Other common overreactions include suddenly threatening to quit a job, feeling sudden impulses to break something, and having sudden urges to verbally mistreat a loved one.
  • masculine shock can also be called conscious suffering.

[9] Underreaction (the right end of the continuum) is also called "Feminine Shock"

  • Feminine shock is the experience of suddenly collapsing inwardly into a place of nothingness or nonexistence, or in other words, it is the sudden experience of emptiness.
  • Underreaction is not relief from suffering; thus, it may help the person to detach from one suffering only to cause another type of suffering. It is the experience of nonexistence; in effect, the experience of feeling meaningless. In extreme cases, this experience is the essence of what drives people toward alcoholism and suicide. It is also the essence of feeling unloved.
  • feminine shock can also be called unconscious suffering.

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