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The Third Kind of Need to Appear

In this, the fifth article of a series on the theory underlying the Social Priority Tests, we look at how understanding the human experiences of personal "neediness" and specifically, distractions in and around our "ideas," can change how we experience relationships. We also begin to look at how this social priority affects us in times wherein we relive injury, and how knowing this can actually help us to heal these injuries.

Neatness - the 2nd Priority Freedom - the 4th Priority


the Third of the Four "Social Priorities"

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the Little Yellow "Understanding" Light Bulb

This time, we'll explore the third of the four Social Priorities; understanding / ideas. And if you look at the little yellow icon above, what you'll see is the icon we've chosen to represent the third of the four ways people seek to meet peoples' needs, both their own and the needs of others.

What do I call these people, those who look to solve people's needs with understanding / ideas?

I call them a "understanding first"person.

What is a understanding first person?

What is an understanding first person?

An understanding first person spends many hours reading books or in classrooms or seminars.

They may also seem incredibly tolerant toward others when listening to ideas other than their own.

They may also appear able to listen to peoples' stories in great detail. And may ask the most insightful of questions.

They may also be very motivated to self examine, or to understand others, perhaps through therapy, or perhaps through meditation.

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The Secondary Priorities of a "Understanding First" Person

There are three secondary priorities for a understanding first person; comfort, neatness, and freedom.

How do these three secondary priorities affect this primary priority; understanding? This time, let's start with me, as I am an understanding first person with a secondary priority of freedom.

How does this play combination out in my life?

I am a two. This means I am a giver by nature.

Being I am an understanding first person, this means my first social priority is to "give understanding."

No surprises here.

With freedom as a secondary priority though, I have a strong value that says I should not force my ideas on anyone, that they should feel free to remain skeptical. In fact, I wouldn't want to force my ideas on anyone even if they would be helped.

Is this difficult for me?

At times, yes. But it is simply my way. My nature. The way I do things.

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The Lesser Priorities of a "Understanding First" Person

Here again, there are six lesser priorities for an understanding first person. Considering how little they affect people though, why even bother with them?

Mainly to know one thing: What these people will do when reliving injuries.