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The Fourth Kind of Need to Appear

In this, the sixth article of a series on the theory underlying the Social Priority Tests, we look at how understanding the human experiences of personal "neediness" and distraction in and around will power and "rules" can change how we experience our relationships. And how it affects how we can and can not relate to others. We also begin to look at how our need to break rules affects us in times wherein we relive injury, and how knowing this can actually help us to heal our injuries.

Understanding - the 3rd Priority How Social Priorities Affect Relationships


the Fourth of the Four "Social Priorities"

the Little Red "Freedom" Butterfly

Finally, this time we'll explore the fourth and final Social Priority; freedom / no rules. And if you look at the little yellow icon above, what you'll see is the icon we've chosen to represent the third of the four ways people seek to meet peoples' needs, both their own and the needs of others.

What do I call these people, those who look to solve people's needs with freedom / no rules?

I call them a "freedom first" person.

What is a freedom first person?

A freedom first person puts their freedom first. Thus, they may insist on always taking their own car whenever they go out with you.

Or they may avoid making plans with you until the last minute, even when they actually want to spend time with you.

They may also complain constantly about the things people "have to do," for instance having to study geometry, or being made to clean up after themselves.

Or they may blatantly ignore social conventions such as being on time. Or they may even fail to show up and when comforted, act above it all.

In a sense, you could say a freedom first person is a very, very willful person, and this is pretty close to the truth. Even so, no matter what it looks like, this is not them trying to control you. It is simply their way to guarantee they will be free to do whatever they want to do in whatever situation they are in.

So what is the social priority of a freedom first person?

No rules. At least, none that apply to them. Or at the very least, no unpleasant rules.

primary need

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secondary needs

The Secondary Priorities of a "Freedom First" Person

There are three secondary priorities for a freedom first person; comfort, neatness, and understanding.

How do these three secondary priorities affect this primary priority; freedom?

For a freedom first, comfort second person, they want no rules to affect them physically. For example, men may refuse to wear ties or suits or dress up even if strongly suggested.

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The Lesser Priorities of a "Freedom First" Person

Here again, there are six lesser priorities for a freedom first person. Considering how little they affect people though, why even bother with them?

Mainly to know one thing: What these people will do when reliving injuries.