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Blocks and When We Get Them

How Unhealed Wounds Get Worse As We Age

How Age Affects the Scope of Our Injuries

Consider what would happen to someone who got startled by a green object. In effect, whenever they were around this color, they would either hate it or got blank. Note that this would occur regardless of what the object was; carpet, forest, his wife's dress. All would illicit either negative reactions of no reactions.

Now consider how the person’s age at the time of such an injury would affect the scope of this Block?

If this injury were to occur to a person at age twenty (as represented by the left diagram), the amount of beauty which would become Blocked would be considerably less than if this injury were to occur to a person aged three. Why? Because the older person’s ability to discern different shades of green would significantly reduce the amount of life experiences affected.

Spread out over a whole lifetime then, hatinf green objects would have an incredible effect, including that the person would have no idea this had happened.

I Helped A Baby Heal This Block at Age 10 Months. But What If I Didn't?

  • Age 4 Months
    The block occurs. Jacob gets startled by a dog lunging at his face. The key: the hair above the dogs lip and teeth. No one actually sees the event, and despite a moment of crying, the event goes unnoticed.
  • Age 1
    Jacob cries when held by his grandfathers, but not when held by his father. Both of Jacob's grandfathers have mustaches. Jacob's father does not.
  • Age 2
    Jacob still resists being held by his grandfathers, but allows them to hold him when his parents insist. He is still OK with men who do not have a mustache.
  • Age 3
    Jacob is cool toward any man with a mustache, but no one has noticed as he has learned to compensate and to fake it.
  • Age 10
    Jacob does poorly in classes where there is a male teacher. As he has a male math teacher, he has come to believe he hates math. With few exceptions, he no longer trusts men except his father (who has never had a mustache).
  • Age 15
    Jacob favors women over men, both as friends and as teachers. He openly blames men for social problems, and when his parents fight, he blames his father
  • Age 21
    Jacob graduates college but has not idea what he wants to do with his degree. He tries hard but has a difficult time getting along with the men in his department, including his boss, who, of course, has a mustache. Jacob claims his boss mistreats him.
  • Age 30
    Jacob gets passed over for promotions as his confidence is low. He does not realize that being a man affects his ability to trust his own judgments, both at his job and at home.
  • Age 45
    Jacob comes into therapy after his marriage fails. His therapist focuses on how the "men in Jacob's childhood were never there for him. Neither Jacob nor the therapist sees the BLock
  • Age 60
    After years of therapy and books and self help, and after his second marriage fails, Jacob is told he simply has had a defect in his brain chemistry which has caused him to be depressed and to have mood swings. Medication helps but nothing really improves.
  • Age 70
    Jacob spends most of his time alone and believes he just has no ability to get along with people. When asked about being alone, he says is is just easier that way and better for everyone.