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The Circles of Blame

The Path to Healing

Me first person's Circles of Blame

The Circles of Blame

What you see above is a graphic representation of what I call, "the Circles of Blame." What this diagram represents is the path though which all people must travel in order to heal any and all wounds, no matter how large or small.

What is significant here is that we are commonly taught, by even the most spiritual of people, that we should not blame. This idea is simply not true. However, while this idea, per se, is not true, the goal the idea speaks of is true; healing and forgiveness are spiritual partners. In other words, in order to heal, we must reach a blameless state.

Let me state this idea yet another way: in order to heal, we must experience all three of these outer states of being in order to arrive at the final goal; forgiveness. This forgiveness is simply one of the more extraordinary expressions of love any of us can experience. However, there is no short cut to this goal. No normal human being can simply jump from suffering to forgiveness even when we believe we have.

In order to heal, then, all people must complete this four part journey from "unconsciousness" to "full consciousness" although not necessarily in any order. Thus all people, in order to heal each and every wound, must [1] recognize a time wherein they did not see the injury as significant, [2] recognize a time when they blamed the injury on others, and finally, [3] recognize a time in which they blamed the injury on themselves.

In a sense, the outer three circles simply represent the three stopping places on our journey toward healing. Thus, we end our journey and arrive at forgiveness only when we have fully experienced all three outer circles. Why all three" Because the essence of these three outer experiences is that we have forgiven ourselves and others for [1] not having seen the significance of the injury, [2] not having seen the innocence of any others involved, and [3] not having seen our own innocence.

In the end, what we experience is the blamelessness of everyone involved, what Christians refer to when they say Christ, in dying, said, "Forgive them for they know not what they do."

One last thing. Please know that people must complete this four part journey for each and every BLock. Thus, having healed one injury will not exempt them from the process in healing any other injury. However, the more one makes these journeys, the more one will acquire a conscious willingness to endure the process.

You first person's Circles of Blame

(click here to read more about the technique I used here)